More happiness with this simple but mighty step E5
August 22, 2021
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In today’s episode, you will discover the powerful but overlooked way to bring more happiness into your life.
Most people are not aware of this but it has the power to instantly lift your spirits and make us feel happier. If you are already an eager listener to my podcast, I am sure you are highly interested in bringing more joy into your life, especially if it is easy to apply. And I know you are open to new insights that can elevate your life experience.
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What if I told you that there is a simple step that can help you to have more happiness in your life? If you are like most people then you want to bring more joy, happiness and fun into your life. You aspire to it! You seek out experiences, a career or relationships that hopefully bring you closer to these desired emotions.
And that makes complete sense! But at the same time, it takes time and effort and quite often when we reach the next stage or we achieve what we dreamed of, we can be disappointed or we don´t really feel how we wanted to feel.
Today I am going to share with you a simple way for you to impact your feelings and improve them. A step in how you can influence your feelings and improve them easily and simply. And that step that I am going to share with you, is the awareness of how emotions actually work.
Being finally able to manage your emotions and increase happiness
If you understand what emotions are, how they work and how they get created in our day-to-day lives, you have the key to changing them, to transforming them into higher levels of emotions. And this is not a trick or an elaborate tool that you need to learn. No, just the knowledge and awareness of what I am going to share with you today, will be enough for you to simply apply it to your life.
Quite often we think emotions are by-products of what happens to us and around us. Something that just comes with “living in this world”.
If they are good emotions we are happy about them – obviously – and if they are the not-so-desirable emotions, we try to ignore them, hide them away for nobody to see, shove them deep down inside of us until they pop up again and again – and sometimes at the wrong moments. Does that sound like something you have experienced before? If yes, you are in the right place!
What if we can influence our emotions?
By just being more aware of them and giving them some attention, you can feel 5, 10 or even 20% more joy and happiness by tomorrow.
And what would your life look like if you did feel better and more positive? What possibilities do you have in your future if you wake up tomorrow feeling better than the last few mornings?
I will share with you how powerful your emotions are. We are going to touch base on what emotions are and how they work in ourselves. And with a fresh view and understanding of emotions, you can change your life.
I have been able to grow tremendously over the last year by understanding what emotions actually are and how I can use this awareness in my everyday life. I want you to experience the same and take charge of your emotional state!
And I understand if it might not be your cup of tea to talk about your emotions. That’s not what is going to be required. Well, not at this first step in the process.
Just think about it! We never learned to talk or deal with our emotions effectively. There was no class or lessons at school that covered what emotions are, how they work, what they do to us and for us and how we can even leverage that knowledge.
I truly believe if we start understanding emotions and getting to know our emotions, we take the first big step towards being able to feel better, more often. And that’s what we are going to talk about today, this first step!
How do emotions work
When we talk about emotions we classify them as positive emotions and negative emotions. Examples of positive emotions are joy, fun, happiness, bliss, peace, gratitude and many more. Then we have negative emotions like frustration, anger, guilt, shame, feeling afraid, worry, and hatred. But all of these, the positive ones and the negative ones are judgements that we make.
But what are emotions?
Emotions are energy in motion. The energy that is moving around in our body when we have a thought or a bodily experience or reaction. The energy of emotion is triggered when we think something specific or we take information in through our 5 senses. And we experience this energy in a certain way. Different emotions feel differently. We feel them in different places in our body, our body reacts in different ways when we have an emotion. As an example, when we feel love or gratitude we feel it quite often in the heart space of our body. But if we feel anxious we might feel it in our tummy – like a stone or a knot.
So we give labels to these energy experiences. It´s kind of a judgement. But how? How are we making this judgement of what kind of labelled emotion this particular energy is?
“Well, we learned it when we were young. Growing up we are told what the emotions are that we are feeling.”
We might have been in a situation where we did not get what we wanted and we stomped our foot down – and then someone told us that we were feeling frustrated.
That’s how we collected the labels for these different emotions. And universally we are aligned on what each of these emotions is – which might have some variances depending on cultures and languages. Because nobody can really know how you feel, we cannot touch it, see it, hear it, smell or taste it. We cannot feel what somebody else feels.
So the classification of positive and negative emotions is man-made. We decided to put these feelings on the good side and these feelings on the bad side. With some grey areas in the middle – some feelings can be seen as good or bad depending on the situation.
I hope you still follow me: Just to recap, an emotion is an energy that is running through our body in a particular way and we as humans categorise them generally into negative and positive feelings.
The simple but mighty step for more happiness
By understanding that your emotions are triggered energies, you can see this emotion for what is it. You don’t have to live through it and believe that you ARE this emotion or that you have no say in it.
With this awareness, you can put some distance between yourself and the emotion you are currently having and observing. You can say: Yes, I am feeling sad about this event that just happened. Instead of saying: I am sad. Making the statement: I am sad. means you are giving your control over the description of the emotion. And remember, we humans just described emotions to share them with others – not for them to have control over us.
So the energy you are experiencing is a bodily reaction to the current event, situation or thought you are having. And it is valid and meaningful to feel sad at certain moments. Don´t think you are not going to have negative emotions anymore. They are normal and important for our mental balance and the assessment of life around us. Remember, we don´t want to explode by bottling up any kind of negative emotions.
The distance between you and your emotions to manage your feelings
But if you know that this is a feeling you currently experience, you have the distance and capacity to understand that this will end. And you are in a better position to assess when it is the right time to move on from this feeling.
You don´t have to stay too long in this feeling which influences your state of mind and your state of being. There is no need to stay sad too long or until somebody else tells you to stop being sad.
“You are the driver of your emotions van. And you decide where to stop and for how long. You don´t have to camp out anymore in one uncomfortable and cold place and wait for something or someone to come to you and tell you to drive on and go to a nicer place.”
After having felt sad at the right time, you can pack it up and move on. And yes, you decide what the right time is. Because we are all individual beings.
Does that not sound like something helpful? To be able to recognize the emotions that we are feeling, to value them, feel them and decide for ourselves when it is enough and when it would be better for our well-being to move on?
Is that not more caring for ourselves and the people around us if we have this capability and use it?
Apply this to your life for more happiness
With the awareness that you just obtained, start observing your emotions. When you do feel a negative emotion, try to describe the emotion. Say something like: I feel frustrated with the project. instead of saying: I am frustrated.
Take this first step to understanding and being aware of your emotions more regularly. And you will be able to influence them quicker and more easily. And by doing that, you start to be able to make better decisions about your emotions and how long you want to stay in one.
I hope this makes sense to you. I hope you can see that this awareness and knowledge brings you a huge step closer to having more positive emotions in your life because you can control them. You can be in charge of your emotional states and what you are feeling. You can decide to end a negative emotion and move towards a more positive emotion because you are in charge.
I truly hope that you implement this into your life, at a minimum try it out and give it a go. And let me know what you experienced and how your relationship with your emotions is changing.
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