The 3 Fears of Letting Go E30

February 22, 2022

The 3 fears of letting go

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Today´s episode is perfect for you if you have something in your life that you would like to let go of but haven’t been able to. I will talk you through the concept of letting go and how it works best taking into consideration universal laws. And I will cover 3 fears that might hold you back from truly letting go. Stay tuned.

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I will start today with the number one mistake people make when they want to replace something in their life with something better like a new job or a better relationship. They think that they will be able to let go easily of the current situation when the new and shiny one arrives. 

“But that´s not how it works.” 

You can keep clinging to the current situation and hoping and wishing, but it is more likely that nothing is going to change. There is no space in your life for the new situation to enter before you are not letting go of the old one. When you have a full glass of water you cannot suddenly have a full glass of milk in the same glass before you don’t pour out the water. 

The best way to welcome new things into your life is to create a void, an empty space for something or someone new to enter your life. (Episode 36)

Letting Go to create a magical void

Let’s say you wish for a better job. If you keep being attached to the old job you are not going to get a new and better job. And by holding onto I don’t mean that you have to quit the old job first before another one can appear. That’s another mistake that some people make. They think the holding on to is just happening in the physical 3D world. They think that you can control everything just in the outside world.

So to give the universe the right message that you are ready for the new job or the new relationship, you might think you have to quit or break up. Sure, these are options and clear messages to the universe. But there are other powers that aren´t visible to our senses. And these are our thoughts, our beliefs and our feelings. And they are much stronger than anything you can do on the outside.

Emotional attachment to people and situations

You can absolutely quit or plan to leave your job while you are looking for another one. But you want to let go as well of the job with your emotional investment, how you think about the job and any beliefs that you might want to change to be ready to receive a new job. 

I had a colleague who knew she would need to leave her job and probably the company due to her company being sold off. And she applied for so many other jobs but nothing worked out – even that it should have. What I observed in how she spoke and acted was a lot of anger and resentment to the current company for making her leave and at the same time still a lot of loyalty and attachment to her team colleagues. She did not want to let them go. 

And all of that is completely understandable, right? But it sadly does not help you if you keep all your attention, your thoughts and emotions on your current job, the company, and your colleagues and at the same time try to move on. There is no space to move on to something new. There is no energy for the new job to appear in your life. Most of your energy and attention is still on your current job, your current employer. Does that make sense to you?

Letting Go on the physical, emotional and mental level

Letting go in the 3D world is a good sign but it’s not the only action you want to take. You can let go of a friendship or a relationship with a partner or a family member. You can cut this person out of your life completely and in the physical sense have nothing to do with the person anymore. But with your emotions, thoughts and even behaviours, you can still be attached to the person that you want to let go of. And this is tricky because it is not visible. This is work that you will want to do on the inside. This might mean forgiveness work, changing your beliefs, managing your thoughts and adjusting your feelings towards this person.

If you have such a situation in your life where you think you are ready for something new and let something current go but it just does not happen, then take an assessment of your inner world. Have you let go of the old inside of you? Or is there a lot of attention and therefore energy on the old? Are there still lots of emotions attached to the old that keep it close to you? Too close for it to leave your life.

Letting go is a huge sign to the universe to send you the right thing. So you want the letting go to be on all levels, the physical, the emotional, the mental level.

The 3 Fears of Letting Go

Now that we talked about how we let go, I want to talk about the fears that we might be facing when we are really trying to let go once and for all. I have been ready to let go of situations before but it would just not work because I was afraid. And these fears can keep you locked in the current situation that you actually want to let go of. That’s why I want to talk them through with you so you become aware of these fears and can look closer if one or several of them apply to your situation.

1st – Fear of the Unknown

The first fear is of the unknown. If we let go of something and we don’t know what is coming next, we might be afraid of this unknown future. And instead of letting go, we are frozen by that fear and stuck in the current state. Our analytical mind can create all of these worst-case scenarios or reasons why you should not do it – some of them are completely bogus – but your mind still creates them out of fear of the unknown and to keep you safe. But the safety that it wants you to stay in is the current situation that you don’t want anymore. Have you ever felt this before? You knew that you wanted to move on but out of fear of what might come next, you stayed stuck where you were? Maybe you are still stuck even today.

You want to trust that your future is going to be that much better if you let go and overcome this fear. Look back at your life where you were able to let go of something, in most cases it turned out to be for the better, right? So look for proof in your past that can build your trust that you will be ok. Be brave and take the next step even if you don’t know where it will lead you. Have trust that it will work out for the best.

Either you are able to trust and become brave and do it – or the alternative is that you stay stuck where you currently are. Many people sadly take the choice of being stuck with something they don’t want and live the rest of their lives with it. They let their fear of the unknown be stronger than their wish to change to a better life. It’s your choice! Just know that the universe is looking out for you and just wants the best for you!

2nd – What other people might think of you

The second fear that you might be facing is what other people might think of you when you let go and change. Maybe these people are directly impacted for example your boss if you are thinking of quitting or your friend if you are thinking of letting go of your toxic friendship. Or it might be that you are afraid of what loved ones might think of you making this change. You might be afraid of their judgement, their disapproval, their disappointment.

Everyone in your life that is worth being in your life will want the best for you. And yes, it might take them a while to see that this change is for your best. But is it not worth doing? Try not to let other people´s opinions control what you do with your life. They are not you. They are coming from their own perspective that is influenced by their beliefs, their upbringing and their own experiences in life. That is different to yours. And if they won’t support you then maybe they might just not be included in this change journey for a while until they come around.

You know best what you need in your life – not someone else. Just you!

3rd – Fear of making the wrong choice

The third fear that I have experienced myself is the fear of making the wrong choice: Questioning yourself if the choice is the right one to make. Ask yourself if you are capable of even doing it. Or maybe something completely different, a third option might even be better. A lot of inaction, energy and nerves can be spent on this fear. And you might not even be aware of what is going on. This fear again can keep you frozen in the same place for a long time. 

The solution to this one is the same as for the first one, you want to raise your trust that it will all work out. And you want to raise the trust in yourself that you are capable of anything and everything. The other thing that can help you hear is strengthening your decision making. You made a decision but then you backtracked because of the fear, the doubt and the questioning. Make a decision and go for it and trust that it will all work out. That’s how you can get yourself out of this one. You will never find out until you try and actually experience it.

And if you are in this spiral of questioning your choice over and over and having some feelings of doubt, you might want to go deep inside and see if you can find an answer. There is the possibility that you know what you want to do but you doubt yourself – instead of it being a fear it might be that this is just not the right path. That is a bold decision to make as well, to let go of this choice and go again into the unknown. 

Example of using the Letting Go Concept

I had this just a few weeks ago. In the last week of my travel on one of Dr Joe Dispenza’s retreats, I wanted to answer the question of what I wanted to do in my business when I return back home. And previously I was unsure and played around with various ideas and options. 

But in one of the meditations, I suddenly understood that all of these options were not something I wanted to do – at minimum not now and maybe never. But I worked on this for the last 1.5 years and that’s what I thought I was supposed to be doing. And when I realized that it is just not my path, I was able to let go. 

I made such a strong decision inside myself that I am not going to do any of the things I was planning to do for such a long time. And when I made this decision, when I let go, I was able to receive and see messages about what I really wanted to do with my time over the next few months. I ignored these messages previously or said maybe I would do it one day but I never took them seriously. 

At that moment when I made the powerful decision to let go and trust in the unknown, the universe answered. My higher self suddenly had a chance to speak up.

A little exercise for you

Maybe my story resonates with you. Potentially you have been working towards something for a while but it just was never right for you. Maybe you are able to look inside of you and see if you want to let go of it and step into the unknown.

Before I let you go, I have a small exercise for you that might help you and it just takes a couple of minutes.

  • close your eyes
  • take a deep breath
  • Imagine yourself in 5 years without having let go, the one thing that you want to change hasn’t changed: In 5 years where are you, what are you doing, how are you doing? how do you feel?
  • Now come back to me in the present moment, take another deep breath and
  • Imagine yourself in 5 years and you were able to let go of this one thing, situation, person, or job next week. In 5 years what does your life look like? What can you imagine you are doing? How are you feeling?

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