Is it a crime to trust people too much? E53

August 2, 2022

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A lovely soul in my community asked me recently if it is a crime to trust and love people too much? Asked in another way: Should we be more careful trusting people because at some point the trust might just be broken anyway. So let’s talk about it!

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So let me start this episode off by explaining that trusting is our natural state of being. Having trust is what is normal. Not trusting is an altered state of being, it is not our natural way of being. And if we are in an altered state it means we are not in harmony. Our systems are out of balance and we are in survival mode (Episode 33). Therefore being trusting of people, trusting in your future, and trusting the universe means being in harmony. Being in balance and that your body is in a natural and healthy state.

Two ends of the spectrum when it comes to trust

Every person has their own way of trusting. But if want to look at the two ends of the spectrum we have either people who trust everyone and everything from the beginning until someone shows them through their actions that they cannot be trusted and the trust goes away. Or the other end of the spectrum is when people say that you need to earn their trust, that it takes them time and proof to build up that trust.

Guess on which side of the spectrum I am and which side I advocate you to be on?🙂

Of course, you guessed correctly. I advocate for you to trust straight away. Trust everyone who steps into your life. Trust that situations work out for the best. And trust that the universe has your back.

The reason why some people think it’s a crime to trust

Why would you want to go through your life in a state of being that is based on mistrust, suspicion, and building up a wall toward people? And I know that people who do generally mistrust people or have problems trusting think that they have a very good reason. And I understand that and still I ask you to change your mind, change your thoughts and move out of this survival emotion and step into more harmony and balance in your life.

The reason why people are not very trusting is that they were taught to be distrusting by their parents or other people in their childhood (Episode 42). So they learned it from adults in their life who live a distrusting life themselves.

And the other reason for not trusting people is that their trust was broken one too many times and they decided to not trust anymore. My heart goes out to you, it really does. And still, I ask you to reconsider your choice even if you’ve been hurt. If your default state is that you are distrusting people, what do you think the universe is going to send you more off? Correct, people that you cannot trust. It’s the simple law of attraction.

It is NOT a crime to trust people too much!

Remember, you are the creator of your life which means you can change your mind on which side of the trust spectrum you want to be. The normal state of being is to trust. To trust people, to trust that you are going to be alright, to trust the universe, your higher self, god or any other higher power that you believe in. Trust them!

And don’t get me wrong. I am still working on trusting the universe even more. But I can tell you from experience if you trust more, you feel better, calmer and more aligned with your life. You worry less, you are more in a flow state with your life because you know that everything is going to work out for the better.

Trust a lot – even in difficult situations. Why?

Have you had this experience before, and I bet you do, that you looked back at an event you experienced as difficult or even traumatic at that time, but now you see that it was supposed to happen like that for you to turn into your current version? My personal go-to example is when I was made redundant from my first proper job when I was 21 years old. Looking back at it I am so glad that it happened. Otherwise, I would not have gone on to my next adventure and the next and the next. I know that my life would not have been so exciting and amazing if I would have stayed in that job for years on end. I bet you can think of an example like that in your life!

Answer these questions about your future self

So if something in your life has happened recently or longer ago that has broken your trust, can you reason with me that there is a future self of you already seeing why this had to happen? And being so glad that it happened because otherwise they would not have received or experienced something so much better? Can you see that if you can think about previous traumatic experiences like this today, you will do the same in the future about something that happened to you recently?

And because you know that you have done it in the past, you can do it again.

And now that you know that, you can even move quicker into a state where you accept that something good is going to come from this experience. You can let go of the emotions of that experience quicker and move towards the future self that is looking back with gratitude at this experience. I don’t ask you to do it overnight – but you could if you wanted to.

You are a supernatural being!

If you are up for the challenge that I am giving you here and you are currently struggling with trusting people, then keep reminding yourself of your future self! How is this person thinking about the current or recently situation that happened? How is this person living their new life? What does the gratitude feel like that they have about their current life?

Step closer to your future self today and move back into your normal state of being which is trusting whole-heartedly. That is how you are supposed to live and love in your life!

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Build Up Your Trust Again

You can be so proud of yourself for showing up and doing the work to improve the trust that you feel. In this meditation, you will be improving the amount of trust you feel for yourself, for the people in your life and the trust you feel for a higher power. That can be the universe, god, your higher self, the divine, or whatever you want to call it.

In this meditation, we are helping and instructing our subconscious mind to let go of limiting beliefs, self-doubting thoughts and questions so we can move from the survival mode of living to an inspiring and peaceful creation mode of living. Enjoy!

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