People that (hopefully) DON’T work with me E89

April 11, 2023

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This blog needs a warning sticker. I will be very open and honest with you today and tell you about the kind of people that I don’t like working with or being around. And that might be a bit controversial and that’s my intention. So let’s get started!

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In last week’s blog, I shared with you some success stories of my clients that went through my program. And I shared with you who the people are that generally come to work with me. So who are the lovely people that come to me to learn how to change?

So today I will be a bit more controversial and will talk to you about the kind of people that hopefully don’t work with me – because I would not want to work with them either. And if someone like that still finds its way to me, I will make sure to be very clear to them about what this work requires of people going through this program. And mostly that scares them off never to be heard from again.

Now a brief disclaimer: If I trigger you then this is meant for you to look closer. Maybe that is something you deep down want to change. So you have a chance to work with me on that.

Who are the people you don’t want in your life?

And what you can get out of this blog is the inspiration to reflect and look at the people that make up your life. Do you have people in your life that you rather want to say goodbye to? Why are they still around?

So before I share with you the kind of people that I don’t want to work with, let me clarify. First of all, I don’t really come across a lot of people like that anymore – most of the time I live with an energy that does not attract these kinds of people anymore in my life.

And while I talk about the kind of people that I mean, I will give you hints on how you can do the same. So read carefully about how you can change so certain people disappear from your life.

It’s the programs in their subconscious – it’s not who they truly are

And secondly, I want to say that this does not mean that people are like that forever. This is not their true nature. These are just programs that run in their subconscious mind, that they learned growing up and they have not yet realized that these programs are not helping them lead a happier and more peaceful life. And I wish them all that they wake up soon and realize it.

But people must already be awake to go through the change program that I teach to get the most benefit out of it. And to be honest, people that are still run by those kinds of programs would never sign up for this anyway. It would go against what they are currently believing in and they would not want me to tell them differently. Makes sense? So let’s get started on that list.

#1 – People that don’t take full responsibility

In the first category, I call out people that want to give away responsibility for them getting better or feeling better to a professional like a coach or therapist. They think that going to visit a person that can help them, fixes all of their issues, and when the issue comes back they just go and see the same person again. They don’t want to take responsibility for making any changes in their life and just use the support of professionals as a band-aid. But really what they do is give the responsibility for how they are feeling to someone else. And in the long run that just does not work.

#2 – People that like to complain, blame, judge, or make excuses

In the second category, we find people that love to complain, blame, judge, talk behind people’s backs and make excuses. And that is just another way of again not taking any responsibility for the life they are creating by complaining, blaming, judging and so on.

The thing is that this behaviour gives off a certain energy or vibration. And you get back what you put out, right? So, if you have lots of people in your life that love to complain, judge others, and blame others for everything that happens “to” them – then have a look at yourself. Do you do the same? And even if you don’t think you are like that, do you support that kind of energy by supporting them in their complaining and blaming and making excuses? Have a think about that.

I know this is quite some tough love from me today – but nothing will ever change if I sugarcoat this. If you don’t want people like that around you then stop supporting them and fuelling their behaviour.

#3 – People who know it all already

The next kind of people that I love to skip having in my programs are the ones that think they know it all already. I would say that people who go through my program actually do know quite a lot already about what I teach – but it’s the way this program teaches it and brings it all together that is the magic. And that’s what people keep telling me. That they have heard many of the things before but it never really clicked for them until they hear it in the program.

So if you imagine somebody with the mentality of knowing this all already, they are not going to listen, and they are not going to get the benefits out of it. And I then would ask, if you know it already why are you even here? Why have you not solved all of your problems already if you know it all?

The thing is that first of all we as humans have to hear something 7 to 10 times to actually get it. That has been researched. Listening or reading something once does not make it solid knowledge inside of our brain. And what about applying it to your life? It does not help you to learn something and then never apply it. That’s not how change works. You actually have to do something with that knowledge.

Ad secondly, it’s quite often the delivery of the information or the timing when you hear the same information again or the teaching style or the words that the new teacher is using and suddenly it makes click for you. And you finally get it. But for you to get it, you must be open to all of this information instead of skipping over it because you think you know it already. Makes sense?

#4 – People that like to boost their ego

And the last kind of people I rather not want to have around me are the ones that love to use any kind of situation to stroke their ego. And how does this show up?

What they love is questioning everything for the sake of questioning it instead of asking a question for their development or understanding. I have no problem being asked questions – but I think you know the kind of people that love to take every little thing apart and ask questions to show off either how clever and great they are or to make the teacher or other participants look bad – and that is not an energy I want around me or my clients.

That is just all in support of their ego and the ego is our worst enemy when we actually want to change something in our life.

Did I trigger you?

So, how was that? How do you feel right now? Did I trigger you because you think I talked about you in one of my descriptions? Maybe I triggered you because I was talking about a person that you have in your life and you are not that happy about it.

If I have triggered you in any kind of way, see it as a message to look closer. Reflect on it and try to find out why I triggered you. It was not my intention to do so. It has all to do with you. I was just the messenger pushing that button inside of you for you to look closer. Get it?

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