Feeling lots of disappointment? Make THIS shift! E131

February 6, 2024

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This episode is perfect for you if you feel frequently disappointment in your life. If you have areas or people in your life that you often feel disappointed about, I will share something with you today that will change these feelings that go along with disappointment.

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Disappointment can be very life-impacting and can influence your everyday mood. If you constantly feel disappointed about something or someone in your life, it lowers your vibrational frequency and therefore as well your energy levels.

I will share with you my personal experience with disappointment in a few minutes. But first I want you to understand what is happening when you do feel disappointment. The more we understand the WHAT and the WHY, the better the HOW of changing it works for you.

Disappointment is when your expectations are unmet

In a nutshell, disappointment is the negative state you put yourself in when an outcome doesn’t match up to your expectations. You wanted something to go a certain way and it didn’t. You want a person to be a certain way or do certain things, and they just don’t. As soon as you have an expectation and it doesn’t go exactly your way, you feel disappointed.

That’s another good reason why we want to move away from creating expectations and move towards setting intentions instead. I talk about this in detail in Episode 117 and you probably want to check that episode out next, to shift away from disappointment even more.

But today we talk about another shift you can make in your life to stop feeling so damm disappointed. With disappointment comes various emotions like sadness, frustration, anger, loss, loneliness, shame, regret and so on. Depending on the situation and the person, you will feel a mix of those emotions every time you are disappointed with someone or something. And every time it happens, you lower your energy, and your frequency and get stuck in the trap of disappointment.

Being disappointed is a trap

That’s what I liked to call it when I discovered that I had too much disappointment in my life. When I realized what was happening, I felt like I trapped myself in thinking disappointedly about too many situations and people in my life, including myself. I was the biggest reason to be disappointed. And this might resonate with you.

So, how about we discover something today that allows us to shift all of this disappointment out of our lives? Sounds great? Ok, let’s do it.

When I realized that I was thinking of nearly everything and everyone in my life as a big disappointment, I was shocked. I did not even realise that I was having these thoughts of disappointment. The way I actually discovered is that I realized that I was not feeling well. I became aware that I had lots of feelings of sadness, frustration, anger and loneliness inside of me, so I went and investigated where this was coming from.

When I discovered all my disappointment

And thankfully my subconscious mind supported me and gave me the answer. It was the word: Disappointed. Linda, you feel disappointed about everything and everyone in your life.

I was truly shocked. I did not know that I was in this downward spiral of creating more and more of this disappointed state of being inside of me. And I did not realize – until then. It was as if I was looking at everything and everyone through a particular pair of glasses and the brand of those glasses was disappointment. And that’s when it hit me: Disappointment is one view to look at something or someone.

There are hundreds or even thousands of ways you can look at something and disappointment is just one of those ways. For some reason, I put on the glasses of disappointment and started seeing everything with this perspective.

I decided to stop being disappointed

I knew I did not feel that much disappointment about the same situations or people just a few months or a year ago. It was just suddenly building up and overwhelming me and the health of my state of being. Once I realized this, I obviously decided to not do it any longer.

And what truly helped me to do it was the realization that it’s my perspective that I need to change. I need to take these glasses off and decide to see my life through new glasses. The word perspective means a particular way of considering something. Not one single way of looking at something, no. Just one particular way. And if it’s just one then I can choose a different one.

You can choose to change your viewpoint, your opinion and your perspective about the situation or person that you have felt disappointed about before. Because the only person you are hurting with being disappointed is yourself. You are harming yourself, your frequency and your energy levels by feeling constant levels of disappointment in your life.

It’s Your Choice!

You might now tell me: Well, Linda, easier said than done. I have good reasons to feel disappointed with this person or with this situation in my life.

To that, I will say: I never said that it’s easy. If it were easy, everyone would be doing it and nobody would feel disappointed anymore. Which is not the case.

In the end, this is your choice. Do you want to keep feeling disappointed about something or someone in your life and let it influence your mood and your mental and physical health? Or are you ready to take those glasses off and decide differently? It’s your choice.

Reflect and open your focus to another perspective

When I had this awareness of what I was doing myself, I decided to instantly stop. Does that mean I don’t feel disappointed anymore ever? No, of yours not. But this is about looking objectively at the situation or even the other person in your life, truly objectively, and opening your focus. Is there another way to look at this situation? Is there anything good coming out of this situation that you can be grateful for?

And what about the person? You have these expectations that are not being met and you put them on the other person? Is this fair? Would you like someone to put that kind of expectation on you and you have to fulfil the other person’s expectations?

Use these reflective questions to open your awareness to another perspective that you can choose to bring into your life. I was able to quickly let go of a lot of disappointment instantly. I did not want to keep having these feelings of sadness, anger, frustration and shame in my life.

Satisfaction came when I shifted away from disappointment

And what quickly came into my life was satisfaction. As soon as I allowed myself to let go of disappointment, I felt so much more satisfied with my life and myself. I was able to feel more grateful again for all the good things in my life and for all the good that the people in my life provided me with – just by being themselves and being in my life.

That’s what came to me when I put those glasses down and decided differently. More satisfaction was able to enter my life. And I am so grateful for having gone through the whole experience. Because now I know what to do every time I catch myself feeling disappointed. I know now, that my satisfaction in the here and now is just a perspective shift away. It’s my choice for how long I want to be disappointed or when to stop.

Make THIS shift: Take Your Glasses of Disappointment off!

And it can be your choice, too. Nobody is forcing you to be disappointed. Yes, you might have learned disappointment from a caregiver who was themselves very disappointed with their life. But they didn’t know any better. The same as you until now.

But now you know. Now you can take your power back and take responsibility for how you look at the people and situations in your life. Remember the metaphor of taking the disappointment glasses off next time you catch yourself. It can be your reminder to shift your perspective instantly and help yourself to feel better and be happier in your life.

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